One Important Question to Ask Before You Say “I Do”

When we think of getting married, we’re usually thinking of the good times. We know that there are tough times in life, but those are not the thoughts our minds caress, and when we close our eyes, those are not the scenes we envision. This gorgeous, amazing, smart, funny, successful, sexy person will soon be ours forever, and together we will make the cutest little babies and live happily ever after.

I remember when I lived and worked in Warri, there was this guy (let’s call him Leo) who wanted to marry me. Now, Leo and I had never interacted. Read more…

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No, No, No. If It Aint Working, Move On

A few weeks ago, before Christmas, I did a very silly thing.

It was two days before Christmas and I had gone to my stylist’s hoping she would be free to twist my hair as this was the only free day I had. Unfortunately when I got there, she was just starting someone’s hair so she asked me to wait, promising that it wouldn’t take long.

I always carry something to read everywhere I go, so I figured I could manage the wait, since “won’t take long” to me meant about an hour. One hour passed and I was still there. Read more…

5 Little Things to Make Your Marriage Sizzle in 2016

I’m a huge believer in the power of small changes. There are so many little things you can start doing or stop doing that will change your life, as cliché as that sounds. If the sameness of marriage was an issue for you in 2015, there are little things you can try that will infuse your marriage with new life. Here are a few of my tried and tested favourites:

1. Hug: I’m not even being cute here. As babies, touch was one of the first languages of love we learnt. Even as toddlers, being picked up or held was one of the major ways we heard “I love you”, before we understood what the words really meant. Now we are adults and we think hugs don’t matter anymore but they do, very much. Agree to drop whatever you’re doing when they come in and just hug for a few seconds. Walk up to them unexpectedly and hug them from behind. There’s science to this thing but I’m not a science student so let’s not go there. If you know about the hormones released and stuff please leave a comment, thanks!

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What God Really Wants

“What shall I bring to the Lord, the God of heaven, when I come to worship Him? Shall I bring the best calves to burn as offerings to Him?

Will the Lord be pleased if I bring Him thousands of sheep or endless streams of olive oil? Shall I offer Him my first-born child to pay for my sins?

No, the Lord has told us what is good. What He requires of us is this: to do what is just, to show constant love, and to live in humble fellowship with our God.”

-Micah 6: 6-8

Not every time “Sow a worthy seed! Give an offering that will move God!” Sometimes give Him what He actually wants.

Songs in the Night

Every person has their way of getting through desert experiences, and for me it has always been music. I listen to it everywhere: when I’m doing laundry, in the kitchen when I’m cooking, in the shower, even at night before I fall asleep. Hymns, old and contemporary, are my favourites (I can see my friends chuckling). These songs have been with me in the night times of my life.

Recently my friend Timendu sent me Natalie Grant’s Desert Song and I did not listen to it until a few days before 2015 ended.

This is my prayer in the desert
When all that’s within me feels dry
This is my prayer in my hunger and need
My God is the God who provides.

I have over 1000 songs on my phone and that’s how this one would have been lost in there had the Lord not brought it up in shuffle. LOL.

And this is my prayer in the fire
In weakness or trial or pain
There is a faith proved of more worth than gold
So refine me, Lord through the flames

It spoke so directly to me, I went into radical change mode. “I cannot have these songs in my phone and rarely hear them ah ahn!”

So I made a decision to bring the stuff that feeds and heals me closer. I moved my general interest music to my laptop and deleted them from my phone, leaving only my spiritual songs and plenty space for my Word files (I have David Ogbueli, Andrew Wommack, Bimbo Odukoya and Paul Adefarasin amongst others that I haven’t listened to!)

So 525 songs were moved, leaving 492. Yeah, I didn’t realise I had more general interest music than spiritual.

I’m ready to enjoy new, faith-boosting music this year. For now though, I still have Desert Song on repeat.

I will bring praise
I will bring praise
No weapon formed against me shall remain
I will rejoice
I will declare
God is my victory and He is here

 

What changes will you make for growth this year? Do leave a comment 🙂