My bosom friend Esther dated her beau for eight years (from University till they both found their feet and got married). A few years ago, my brother-in-law also married his sweetheart of over a decade. At both weddings, the joy that old friends and schoolmates in attendance radiated was palpable; the dream had come true at last!
This is how I used to think every long-term relationship should be. I could never understand how people dated for years and then broke up, eventually marrying other people. My heart and head rebelled against it, and though I rarely ever commented, I always thought in my heart that they were throwing away a good thing for whatever reason. To my way of thinking then, there was nothing that a couple who had enjoyed a great relationship for a long time couldn’t work out together. It’s basically like marriage, after all, isn’t it?
No, it is not. No matter how long an earthworm grows it will never become a snake. Continue reading…
2 thoughts on “Why Do Long-Term Relationships Not = Marriage?”
Many people in these long term relationships sort of ‘stumble’ into them and only realise how long it has been when the issue of marriage crops up from either or both parties. We all need to think long term and be deliberate in our relationships and choice of partners.
Great write up. Thanks for this!
That’s exactly how it often happens. Being more deliberate would certainly help.