Family Life, Literature, Relationships

Dear Elona: Letters to My Friends, the Brides and Brides-to-Be

 

 

There are many things that people don’t have the heart to tell the bride, but I believe she should know these things.

If you agree, then you will enjoy reading Dear Elona: Letters to My Friends, the Brides and Brides-To-Be.

I believe this collection of 50 heartfelt letters to 50 unique women, married and single, is timely and essential; especially for young Christian women today who hope to become wives, or just did.

I address the priority of choosing the right man: Is there such a thing as marrying the wrong person? Do you have any concrete reason for holding on to this relationship apart from the time you’ve already spent which you don’t want to go down the drain? Is he in love with you, or with the idea of you? Are you ignoring red flags or assuming you can “manage”? Does he handle life well?

I discuss the importance of becoming the right woman: Are there bad habits you need to deal with before becoming a wife? Are you comfortable in your own sexuality and knowledgeable about sex? Are you open and honest about your expectations? Have you bought into any marriage myths that are simply not true? Should you take your ex back?

Also, I talk about doing what is necessary to make love last, and knowing when to leave: Why does love fade in marriage? What does it mean to be happily married? What can we do to reduce the risk of divorce? Why do women stay in abusive marriages? How can we avoid being torn apart by money, or the lack of it?

As I wrote in Dear Elona: Letters to My Friends, the Brides and Brides-To-Be, “There are no guarantees to this marriage thing. But there’s no denying that it is best entered into with eyes wide open.”

entrepreneurship, Finance, Personal Leadership

From #SideHustle to #PassiveIncome!

 

Anyone who’s known me for any length of time knows that I don’t believe in having just one source of income. If you’re new to the concept, I recommend this article I wrote about why you should have a side hustle.

Before my editorial services business became my main gig, it was my side hustle. When it became my primary source of income, I knew I needed another side hustle.

I had one for a while, and it was a truly fun and lucrative one, but amongst other drawbacks there was the “hustle” part of it.

I needed something less intrusive, something closer to my everyday life, a way to get paid for doing things I already did every day, things that came naturally to me.

After reading The Four-Year Career (a life-changing book for me!) I knew for sure that what I wanted was out there, and that I would recognize it when I saw it.

And I have!

I recently partnered with an amazing company that allows me to build residual income by doing what I’ve already been doing daily for free.

I’m excited and fired up!

 

PS

There’s a lot out there under the guise of business opportunities offering extra income. Here’s something I learnt from a great leader:

 

ABOUT YOUR OPPORTUNITY

  1. Is this a real business opportunity? Or just an excuse to move money amongst friends?

If the answer is NO, don’t WALK away… RUN away!

 

  1. Would I purchase the product or service if there were NO Business opportunity attached?

If the answer is NO, don’t WALK away… RUN away!

 

  1. Does the company offer a leadership development program?

If the answer is NO, don’t WALK away… RUN away!

 

 

entrepreneurship, Food, Health

What If You Could Say Goodbye to Period Pain Forever?

 

 

When my BFF had her first pain-free period, I wished I could ask this question of every woman I knew: what if you could say goodbye to period pain forever?

All she did was make a single lifestyle change — she chose a dietary supplement I had just started promoting. It doesn’t cure anything. It elevates your body to peak state of health, and then your body does what it was designed to do: cleanse, heal, and rebalance itself.

She was simply supporting my new side hustle, but after 20 years of excruciating period pain (we’ve been friends since we were 12 years old) she had her first pain-free period ever.

You see, I was excited to start my new hustle. You would be too if you met the people I met and heard their stories.

Like the story of Monica’s son who had to be hospitalized every month, sometimes twice a month, because of his sickle cell crises. His genotype is still the same but with this supplement, he hasn’t had a single crisis in over two years.

Like the story of Chris whose blood sugar was so high that ants were gathering around his urine in the toilet bowl. Two weeks after cutting down on carbs and taking this supplement daily, his blood sugar was down to normal and has stayed within healthy limits.

Like the story of Funmi who used to have only 2 periods in a year because of PCOS, and had been trying unsuccessfully for years to have a 2nd child after her daughter. Not only did her periods become regular with continued use of this supplement, she conceived and now has a baby boy!

Yes, I was excited about my new mission. If you know me you know I love this kind of thing, making a difference in people’s lives.

So I made a decision to offer this supplement to everyone who was open to trying it. And after just few weeks on it, my BFF’s period came with zero cramps! Whoa!

What I love the most about this particular brand is that you don’t have to take the supplement in capsule form if you don’t want to.

What my BFF got (and what has now become my Number 1 choice) is the supplement already infused into that antioxidant-rich beverage that’s even healthier than water; green tea.

Wait, green tea is healthier than water? That doesn’t make sense! There’s nothing better than water!

Actually, there is: you get all the benefits of water AND all the benefits of the antioxidants, vitamins and minerals that exist in green tea!

Now imagine drinking this every day, PLUS the transformational benefits of this amazing supplement — the closest thing to nutritional perfection you can put in your mouth — infused into it. You can’t taste it, you can’t smell it, but it’s there and it’s working. Pure gold.

I’m your plug. Email anafricandiva@gmail.com or send me a Twitter DM @anafricandiva

Pinpoint Creatives

Why Do You Need an Editor When You Have Spell Check?

Are you counting on tools on your computer to identify errors in your document? Spell check and grammar check have limited uses. There are certain errors that they just cannot pick up; I see this happen all the time.

Semantic errors are not things your computer can fix for you.

For example, “discrete” and “discreet” are both proper English words but not used in the same way. Spell check won’t help you there.

It is wrong to say “I asked her severally” when you mean “I asked her several times” but your computer can’t tell you, because “severally” is also a word- used differently.

Don’t risk turning your readers off. Ensure that your work is memorable for all the right reasons. I’m at your service! #YouNeedAnEditor

Published Articles, Spirituality

Let’s Talk About the Prostitute Who Became a Princess

Do you worry about how people see you? What people think of you? I can categorically tell you that what matters is not whether people consider you worthy. What matters is God’s opinion of you. Nobody knows this better than Rahab.

Like the other three “unbelieving” women mentioned in Matthew 1, Rahab’s place in Jesus’ lineage is in itself is a testament to the very grace that drew salvation’s plan. They were raised by God to become part of His Son’s ancestry, in order that He who came to save sinners, Himself being born of sinners, might destroy the sins of all.

Jericho was the worst of the cities of the Amorites, and as a result God commanded Joshua to destroy both the city and its residents. Joshua sent out two spies to check out Jericho in preparation for war and when they got there, they hid in the home of a prostitute, Rahab, leading to her life and the lives of her family members being spared. Here are a few noteworthy things about “Rahab the Harlot”.

Personal Leadership, Spirituality

Let’s Talk About the Boy Who Killed a Giant

One of the most delightfully inspiring stories of all time can be found in 1st Samuel Chapter 17; the awesome account of a small shepherd boy who brought down the giant champion intimidating his people.

King Saul was afraid. The Israelites were afraid. They thought their doom was certain.

Have you ever been threatened by giant? Have you ever had to face something so much bigger and stronger than you, that you believed it was unsolvable? Do you still have to deal with a giant today?

Your giant may be a need; for a job, life partner or the fruit of the womb. It may be a weakness; a habit you cannot break that is destroying you gradually, for instance. Or it may be your circumstances; a sickness that leaves you bedridden, or even a wayward child.

Regardless of what shape it takes, a giant is always from the enemy’s camp; what it wants to do to you is not what God desires for you.

Published Articles, Spirituality

Let’s Talk About The Guy Who Rebuilt His Nation

In today’s world, there are so many broken walls to rebuild; in individual lives, families, organizations, and of course, countries.

Are you grieved over broken walls? Are you tired of just complaining? Do you long to play a significant role in rebuilding? Then let’s talk about Nehemiah and his building project.

A quick review of the Book of Nehemiah reveals six principles we can adopt when faced with the daunting task of building from the scratch up again.

Published Articles, Spirituality

Let’s Talk About the Wife Who Wasn’t Loved

Do you know what it feels like to be married to a man who doesn’t love you? Maybe you do. Maybe your marriage is the result of parental matchmaking gone wrong. Or maybe you were just dating and getting to know each other and you fell pregnant. Now you’ve “trapped” him with pregnancy and he believes he would not have gone to the altar with you otherwise. Or maybe he did marry you willingly, but only because he couldn’t get the woman he really wanted. Whatever may have happened, you’re in a marriage with a man who doesn’t love you, and probably loves someone else.

Or maybe, you’re not yet married and are considering marrying a man who doesn’t love you — for money, security, babies, or whatever reason. Let’s look at a few things Leah came to know only too well.

Personal Leadership, Published Articles

10 Things That Are Holding You Back as a Professional

If you follow successful professionals, you’ll notice that there are certain things they have in common, and that there are many similarities in the pieces of advice they share.

The interesting thing is that, from speaking with others, I know that these aren’t peculiar to me.  Every time I sit down with someone to talk about what they could have done differently, and the small moves that made a big difference, it turned out many of us were making one or more of these mistakes that are probably holding you back as well.

entrepreneurship, Published Articles

7 Mistakes to Avoid as an Employer

One of the most challenging parts of running a small or medium enterprise is being an employer of labour. Whether you have 3 employees or 30, life as you know it has changed forever. You’re now directly responsible to and for others, and you have to do right by them and also make sure that your business is better for their being there. Here are 7 pitfalls you’ll want to avoid.