Naija Voice: This Marriage of a Thing Dey Fear You?

E suppose fear you o. The thing risky no be small.

I remember one time wey dem ask one oyibo pikin who e go marry. E say e go marry im mama.

Dem tell am say no o, person no fit marry im own mama o. The boy come say okay, e go marry im sister. Dem say no o, person no dey marry sister o. Person no fit marry person from im own family o.

The pikin shock. E no fit believe am. So, person go just marry person wey e no know before? Na so una dey do am? The pikin begin cry.

You fit blame am? Sometimes I dey look my husband, and e dey surprise me say I meet person wey I no know before, come marry am. ‎Continue reading…

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Unhappily Married: Why Won’t She Just Leave?

I attended a women’s retreat recently, and one of the workshops was about what to do when you find yourself in an unfulfilling marriage. Several helpful tips and solutions were proffered, but nobody said anything about leaving until one woman asked in frustration, “When will a woman ever be told to just leave?” Continue reading…

7 Things I Love About My Side Hustle

Love is putting it mildly, actually. I’m crazy about it! Here are just 7 of the many reasons why:

 

  1. Peak performance: A healthy mind in a healthy body is the goal of #SelfCare, and my side hustle has taught me a lot about the latter. Did you know that your body is the best doctor? It’s designed to heal, cleanse and rebalance itself, and it does its job better the more you elevate it to peak state of health. Just ONE addition to my diet, and my body has begun to heal itself; a health condition I’ve had for over two decades (of which the last five years were the scariest) has been reversed! Oh the joy!

 

  1. Serving others: Learning, and sharing what I’ve learnt, is the passion of my true self. Now, I’m able to share the knowledge I’ve received with others, and help their bodies become healthier too. My best friend was one of the first people I shared with, and after over 20 years of excruciating period pains, she had a pain-free period for the first time ever!

 

  1. Extra income: Even though I share this knowledge at no cost to listeners, I still get paid for my work weekly. It’s genius.

 

  1. Upgraded associations: I have colleagues all over the world (55 countries and counting) and my outlook on life has broadened beyond anything I thought possible. Plus, I can’t think of anything else I could be doing right now that would gift me with a millionaire mentor and a multimillionaire grandmentor (we’re talking US dollars!). My mentor’s mentor is an Amazon bestselling author who owns an oil and gas servicing company, a software company, plus two restaurants in Texas, and he’s sitting at a table talking to me?!

 

  1. Training: I have access to my company’s academy at all times, including mentorship sessions. Have you ever woken up and felt how much you’ve grown?

 

  1. Recognition: Beyond pay, I’ve always dreamed of being recognized for my hard work, but I never thought it would happen any time soon since I was a solopreneur. Here I am now, basking in accolades. It’s so fulfilling and encouraging.

 

  1. Room to grow: Starting out as a consultant in any field, it’s totally okay not to know much; you’re not expected to. In fact, your job is to learn and follow instructions as you’re trained. The sweet thing is, you earn as you learn. I’ve grown so much, and I’m still growing. Gifts I haven’t been using in my editing and writing career (public speaking for instance) have come out to play, and I’m loving it.

 

Collaboration is the new competition. I’m always on the lookout for fun, talented people to work with on different aspects of our projects; share the work, share the income. If you’re interested in partnering with me a few hours a week, send me an email with the subject SIDE HUSTLE: anafricandiva@gmail.com

 

 

Live grateful!

Do You Know the King of Herbs?

I recently found out about a species of red mushroom the Chinese call lingzhi (Japanese reishi, the King of Herbs). Now if you know the Chinese at all, you know they don’t play when it comes to herbal medicine. So when I heard of ganoderma lucidum, the herb crowned king, my interest was piqued. In the olden days, this herb was reserved only for the Chinese royal family, and I wanted to find out what made it so special.

I became even more curious – and more skeptical – when I heard several stories of how this herb had brought health and vitality to many people, correcting ailments from insomnia and constipation, to hormonal imbalance and ulcer. I couldn’t help recalling those people who peddle suspicious-looking medicines in danfo buses, claiming that their one medicine cures ten different ailments. Yeah, right.

I decided to take time out and research ganoderma lucidum, and what I found was astonishing. I wondered, why isn’t everyone talking about this? You can Google it yourself, but here are just a few benefits I found in the course of my research:

  • Immune system regulation
  • Stress reduction
  • Blood pressure regulation
  • Good sleep
  • Libido improvement
  • Hormonal balance
  • Liver protection and regeneration
  • Male and female fertility booster
  • Dysmenorrhea (painful menstruation) relief
  • Cholesterol regulation
  • Heart protection
  • Storehouse of a whopping 400 nutrients

 

How come this one herb does all this, and more? It maximizes your body’s natural ability to heal and rejuvenate itself, simple.

Whatever part of your body isn’t functioning optimally, whatever organ is sleeping on the job, ganoderma lucidum wakes it up and helps it function as it was created to function. I picture it going around the body clapping, “Okay everybody, wake up and do your work!” It finally made sense why it does one thing for one person, and another thing for another person. I finally understood the point of 2000 years of documented use in herbal medicine.

Thanks to advancement in science, this herb can now be found in capsule form as a supplement. However, I’m not one for swallowing pills. I prefer drinking a tea or other beverage infused with ganoderma lucidum – brilliant idea, by the way – *since I usually have a hot cup of something or the other every day anyway.

I’m totally in awe of the Creator and the wonderful things He made, just for our wellbeing. The earth is truly God’s, and the fullness thereof. He uses the least likely to do the most mighty. How else could a little mushroom be king?

 

*I first published this in July 2017 on ConnectNigeria.com. I am now a distributor. If you’d like to try ganoderma-infused coffee, tea or hot cocoa, please select your country at the top right corner HERE and give yourself the gift of health!

5 Minutes with Arit Abolade, Executive Director, S.T.A.R Foundation

Arit Aduke Abolade is the founder and executive director of Stella Teaching and Relief Foundation (STAR Foundation), a nonprofit organization that operates out of Abeokuta, Ogun State. A graduate of Microbiology, she holds a diploma in Missions from Christian Missionary Foundation and currently works full-time as a Christian missionary with vulnerable children in rural areas. She talked to me about working with children, and the free children’s prayer book she has written. Read it HERE.