30 Days, 30 Blogs: Stupendous Grace

Stupendous: Causing amazement; astounding; marvelous

The grace that drew salvation’s plan. The grace that not only reached out to us when we were lost, but sustains us even now that we are found. The grace that gives us free access to our Creator, grace that makes it possible for us to call Him Daddy. The grace that promises that all things are working together for our good, no matter how “bad” they may seem now. The grace that will lead us to our eternal home. Stupendous grace!

This blogger knows the grace of God, and everything she posts flows from the knowledge of that grace. Not head knowledge, but a real, experiential knowledge.

She’ll be the first to admit that it was not always so; she says so in her Letter to God:

I know I’ve not always enjoyed this level of relationship with you. For a long time, I was content with bearing your name as my surname and then meeting you for a quick dinner every now and then. I was content with referring all my bills and needs to you and you made sure that my needs were met as good fathers are wont to do.  I was comfortable with a simple, ‘Hi Dad’, ‘Good night dad’ relationship and when challenges came my way, I was bold to bring them to you and you, dear Father, always came through for me. I always had a new story to tell my friends about how ‘cool’ my dad was. Then one day, I listened to one of my brothers speak about you so intimately and a feeling of deep loss overwhelmed me. He had something I didn’t have. I knew your acts, yes, like the Israelites, but I didn’t know your ways like Moses did (Psalm 103:7). And then, I realised that I wanted more.

By her words, the lessons and testimonies she shares, the encouragement she gives, the life she lives, Eloho inspires me. She inspires me because we share so much in common. She calls herself the average girl next door, and I know that’s what she is, because that’s what I am. We are recipients of grace that transforms us into more.

We were not worthy, we were not qualified, and yet we are loved with a love so deep, so high, so wide, that we can never fully grasp the intensity of it.

What a joy to know the grace of God…we rejoice in the grace of God!

 

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30 Days, 30 Blogs: 19th Street

There’s so much that can go wrong when a blog has guest posts often. The possibility of this is even higher when the blog owner doesn’t write as many posts as he features.

What I’ve come to realise in life is that many cooks do not necessarily spoil the broth; it’s too many cooks that spoil the broth. How can you tell how many is too many? Well, it’s an art, and Uncle Efe has it down to a T. It’s not easy to say whether it’s as a result of the timing, the quality of the writers or the assortment of themes, but there are never too many cooks on 19th Street.

This blog invites you to “explore memories of life’s experiences” and everything you’re looking for, from relationship gist and true life stories, to poetry and fiction, you’ll find here. I particularly love how the blogger invited various people to write about their 2013 in December last year. Rich, inspiring pieces, every last one. And Uncle Efe was such a graceful and gracious host, putting his little notes at the bottom of each one, thanking the contributors for sharing and wishing them well in 2014.

My favourite posts however, are the ones for and against the motion that Uncle Efe is Naija Husband. No matter how many times I read the “for” I still find myself laughing- howling, in fact. Efe is obviously not Naija Husband but apparently this is obvious only to some of us. Perception is such a powerful thing.

This blog is truly special, and it’s all the different flavours that make it so. The more the merrier, all the way. Enjoy the broth!

30 Days, 30 Blogs: Dr N’s Musings

Dr. N has been a medical practitioner for over 8 years and she started this blog to share “what you wish your doctor told you.”

Of course this was enough reason for me to be drawn to this blog- who doesn’t want to hear the truth about something as important as health? Her passion, burden and purpose in life is to educate, inform and empower Nigerians and the rest of the world to make informed health decisions. Add to that the fact that she is unapologetically Christian (it’s uncool to be that these days, by the way) very candid, a devoted wife and mother, and writes the kind of relatable fiction that I enjoy…there’s no denying the fact that I’m hooked.

You can be sure I’m always busy gobbling up all the posts that have any references to married sex; lord knows we spend too much time telling young people to abstain and way too little time helping them when they eventually get married. I’ve always been exasperated by how religious people like to pretend when it comes to sex. It’s one of the 25 Random Things About Me I shared in an old post here.

Here’s a delightful snippet from one of Dr. N’s posts:

“When you meet the right man, you need to open up your heart slowly to the idea that God has authorised him to receive the jewels you have been keeping for Him. Slowly, as the wedding approaches, you see him as a priest who receives the offering. Just as the Israelites gave their precious sheep and doves to the priests to burn and even eat, but believed it was God who got the glory. So I honour God and my husband with my body. If I lie there stiff as a board, muttering “Blood of Jesus”, the guy will be turned off. Soon, we will need a marriage counsellor. Rather, I let go with reckless abandon, just as I scream and dance in church, so both he and Jehovah are excited. Let’s be real ladies, it takes 2.”

Yeees doctor! Ladies, have you heard? It’s what the doctor ordered! And she talks to the guys too. Bookmark this blog today!

30 Days, 30 Blogs: Musings of a Caramel Latte Addict

This is my favourite relationship blog! Her relationship with God is sooo inspiring, and I have often been intrigued, amused and blessed by her views on romantic relationships too. On top of that, she features posts from other writers about relationships, and some of the things I’ve read here are amazing, especially the true life stories. So much to learn!

I did a review of the blog here.

Now that she’s married(she got married 2 months ago), I can’t wait to see her practice all she’s been preaching! I know it’s not easy but there’s grace enough for her.

We have so much more to look forward to:

I intend to start a series. In fact I have so many many beautiful plans for this blog. I intend to write about my relationship (which I never do) but in the form of a story. I intend to give practical tips to brides to be on planning a wedding. I intend to start a prayer series for newbies in marriage etc. I intend to publish some of my stories that are gathering dust in the folder. So many things on my mind. But for now, I just want to do a little dance.

We’re waiting, Temi, we’ll be here when you finish your dance!

30 Days, 30 Blogs: Diary of a Lady Whose Lover Is Her LORD

The life of a single woman who follows Christ is a very interesting one. Posts on this blog make me remember faith and trust in a time of uncertainty. In the midst of the challenges, loneliness and doubt, she must find joy in her Maker. She must hide her heart in Him.

Questions, questions, questions. Is God really good? What am I supposed to be doing to speed up this process? How will I know him when I see him? Lord, could you please get my mother off my back? Gosh, another birthday and I’m not married yet…on and on. The question of the will of God is one of great concern for this blogger; nobody wants to make a mistake in marriage. She writes:

Growing up, you would always hear messages that went something like this; ‘God’s Will is difficult and your flesh will always fight it, but you would need to submit to it because God knows best and in the long run you will see it’s for your good’.  I heard it so much that my mind got it twisted because the emphasis then was placed on the Will being difficult than it was for my good. They made it sound like  when your mother would force you  to drink ‘agbo’(a traditional fever concoction drink) because she knew it would make you well, but that didn’t change the taste of the drink( I still cringe at the thought of those memories).

I’m glad she knows where to find answers. Yes, God is good. Yes, He will bring the right partner your way at the right time. No, he won’t force you to marry a man you do not like simply because it’s “His Will” or whatever other lies the enemy uses to torment the waiting heart.

This is a new blog, with only a few posts, but it’s one I will definitely be following!

30 Days, 30 Blogs: Miafarradaily

Miafarradaily is a blog about the life and times of a lawyer lady who describes herself as Nigerian/English. You know how I really love to see Nigeria through the eyes of Nigerians who have spent a lot of time away from here, especially when they write about their experiences!

One of my favourite posts on this blog is “Don’t Expose Your Laps”, a post written during her NYSC last year. I don’t know what kind of company or ministry she served with but she was so bored that she took to writing academic essays, a PhD proposal, and of course, observing peculiar Nigerian ways.

4. “Are you mobile?” means “do you have a car?” and usually precipitates a request to give someone a lift. It is just about okay to give an older woman a lift but it’s generally a bad idea to give men of any age a lift, no matter how bitchy that might seem (see 3 above) because if you do, you’ll get to work the next day and find an office brimming with gossip about how you “ride around town with men” and the car itself was probably bought for you by another man.

5. Long lunches are totally okay so long as you have someone in the office who will say “she just stepped out” to anyone who asks. “Stepping out” is code for anything from “she’s in the loo” to “she’s in an important meeting” to “she’s currently having a two course meal at Tulip Bistro, followed by a pot of froyo at Yogurberry, then a quick stop to get her brows waxed at B-Natural Spa.”

Isn’t she entertaining! The blog is mostly about true experiences, but she also puts up fiction on Thursdays.

The blogger’s real name is not Mia Farraday, by the way. Mia Farraday is the name of the female character in the first short story she wrote when she was nine years old. The Mia Farraday in the story was eaten by hungry dogs. While the blogger says she’s hoping for a slightly better outcome, I’m thinking, hers will be a WHOLE LOT better.

I’m rooting for her, and for every woman who is working hard to reach her goals, so I’ve put up a picture of my favourite lawyer lady. May we become all that we dream of becoming, and more.

30 Days, 30 Blogs: Fairy Godsister’s Blog

If you love reading, please allow me to introduce you to the delightful pleasures of Fairy Godsister’s Blog.

Collaboration: If you like reading posts by good writers, you’ll love blogs that host writers regularly! You come most likely because you like to read what I write. What it you could read interesting pieces from various writers without moving from site to site? Fairy Godsister grants this wish via her 31 Days, 31 Writers series. The more the merrier!

Giveaways: She doesn’t do it often, but you want to hang around because when she does, it’s awesome; if you’re a bookworm, that is. If you’re not really into books and reading, you’re not likely to find a thrill here for now, unless you love…

Spiritual Food: The Fairy Godsister knows where good spiritual food is served, and she’s not stingy!

Sometime in February, I had a chat with a Pastor friend of mine, and what started out as me doing him a favor turned out to be the fulfillment of the perfect plan of God for him to mentor me. Apparently he had received this word as far back as 2009 but at the time we spoke (2014) the time was right. Don’t you just love God and the way He absolutely plans things?

Anyway, by the end of the evening (and we must have talked for a little under four hours), I was the proud owner of a beautiful Message Bible, and Rick Warren’s ‘The Purpose Driven Life’. Whoop!

I dug up a book by my Father in the Lord, Pastor Obi Goodheart Ekwueme which just has little pearls of wisdom for each day and so my devotion literally revolves around these two and a devotionals on my phone on the YouVersion App. This particular one is a 40-day Bible reading plan, created by Hillsongs (my home church), whoop!

So! I started on all three, and brethren (testimony mode), it’s been great! Some days I’ve been so excited with the new knowledge I glean that I call my Momma to preach it to her! PS – my Momma has prayed all three of us into loving the Lord, and am I grateful for that or what!

See what I mean? Go ahead and have fun!

30 Days, 30 Blogs: Random Musings

This girl loves God. She loves music. She loves books. Why are we not sisters??? Oh wait! We are! Blood Sisters. Precious Royal Blood, no less. She talks to our Dad the way I talk to him, only she’s actually gifted after the manner of our big brother King David. She writes;

Abba, the hurt hasn’t healed

The band-aid has been ripped off

Uncovering years worth of love unrequited

The stitch is coming undone

The smile no longer holds the seam

Hurting people hurt people

Broken vessels don’t hold love

Or anything else

Fix me.

Make me new.

Heal me…

Random Musings follows Miss Anna Kovie Evi-Parker’s on her spiritual journey. Even her posts relating to life in general are also viewed through the eyes of a spiritually conscious young woman; as it should be for every true believer. See my review of the blog here.

A contemporary psalmist, is how I think of this blogger. Sincere, real, lyrical, authentic. Visit this blog to be refreshed and renewed. If you are lost, visit this blog to find your way back home to Him again.

30 Days, 30 Blogs: The F.A.B Sister’s Blog

The joy of the lord. That’s the first thing I think of when I remember Eziaha. Her passion for Christ- to worship Him, love Him, serve Him and draw others to Him- makes me smile.

I have never met this blogger (I hope I do someday) but I consider her a sister. She blogs unabashedly about her faith, and in a most natural and sincere way! She also blogs about relationships, marriage, reading, culture, and lots of other things. I just ENJOY reading her. The first post I read on this blog was one where she was getting her hair done, eating Beloxxi crackers and wondering what her wedding night would be like. She’s just Ez like that.

And of course I can never forget her post about the list! Poor Ez cried when she saw the list her kinsmen presented her husband-to-be with. I could feel her pain. Thank God the young man did not run away!

I’m glad they made it through, and I was thrilled to see a photo of her husband 6 months after the wedding; the difference was amazing! What has she been giving him? God food and good sex, she says. Hehehee!

Note: this funny, warm, smart blogger has strong, Bible-based beliefs, values and opinions. She does not apologise for them. She’s living the Christ life on the F.A.B lane!

30 Days, 30 Blogs: …On Being a Young Wife and Mother

One thing I’ve learnt about motherhood is that we, mothers, have tremendous power to comfort and encourage each other on this journey. One simple way to do that is to share our experiences with honesty, and that’s what Quirky Young Mom does.

I remember one episode in Season 1 of Desperate Housewives where the usually resilient Lynette, overwhelmed by the incredible pressure of trying to hold a home together with 4 kids and no help, broke down, dumped her kids with the neighbour (I always pitied her especially with those twin boys, gosh!) and drove off to a field to cry. The other wives met her there, and to comfort her as she lamented about being a bad mother, they also shared their own experiences- even Bree who always seemed to have it together admitted that she had spent many a nap time crying when her kids were younger. Lynette was surprised! “We should tell each other these things,” she sobbed.

Yes, we draw strength when we know we are not alone. The challenges you face as a wife and mother are shared by countless mums around the world, so be encouraged.

QYM writes honestly about her experiences and lessons learnt, in posts ranging from funny to very serious. In a note to herself she writes,

“Though you may be tempted to fit in the maximum amount of activities into every time slot you get during the day [e.g. those short naps before baby’s next feed], never forget to always do one thing first; EAT! Don’t try to shower or do laundry before you have eaten because you will regret it if baby wakes up and your body is clean but your stomach is empty.”

Don’t I know it?!

Enjoy!