What you know may not matter much if you aren’t applying it. You might as well not have that knowledge at all. When it comes to marriage, there are things we know we should do, but life and laziness get in the way.
Yes, I’m too lazy. I don’t have the energy and this is why my marriage is “good”. Sure, there are people with great marriages but those ones have two heads, you just can’t see the other one with your physical eyes. Someone once likened a great marriage to ducks swimming, smooth and effortless on top when underneath they’re actually paddling like crazy!
Think about the most successful students, musicians, or athletes you know. You see them when they excel and receive awards and accolades. They’re always looking awesome and pumping their fists, and you’re never thinking of the nights spend studying while others were sleeping, the hours spent rehearsing, writing and recording, or the disciplined training and achy muscles.
It all just looks fun and exciting, pretty much the way genuinely happy and fulfilled couples look.
We know say the story wey we dey hear na story of how house maid dey wicked, how dem dey use bad pay their madam wey do good for dem, or how dem dey carry bad belle from their former working place come dey wicked the new family.
Na dat one dey make you feel say we no go hear how you dey wicked your own house girl. And people like you many; the thing wey una dey take these girls eye see fit make person cry. All those kin story, people no dey wan loud am. Read more.
If you’re a wife and mother who goes to work, works from home, or runs a business, then you must have help at home. That’s it; it just had to be put out there like that. If you don’t have help, then you need to ask yourself some hard questions. If you have chosen to not have a business or career, that’s a different matter. However, if you want to make money, contribute meaningfully to the economy, and raise your kids properly, you need help at home whether it’s someone who resumes and closes or someone who lives with you. Here are a few things every working mother without an assistant should know.
- You Are a Person.
Yes, you are a human being. Ecclesiastes 3:13 says “And people should eat and drink and enjoy the fruits of their labour, for these are gifts from God.” Being a woman doesn’t exclude you or mean that the gift of God doesn’t apply to you. The “virtuous and capable wife” in Proverbs 31 knew this. She went about her various businesses with zest and vigour, and applying her God given aptitude she invested her earnings, creating multiple streams of income and multiplying her revenue! Have a look:
-“She finds wool and flax and busily spins it.”
-“She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard.”
– She is energetic and strong, a hard worker. She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night.
– She makes belted linen garments and sashes to sell to the merchants
Man or woman, there is dignity in labour. God has made it so, and is well pleased to see it. Get with the programme.
“She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work…” Proverbs 31:15
I’m an owl. Naturally I do my best work when I’m at my desk late into the night, and in the mornings I prefer to sleep in. There is nothing wrong with this, per se; after all we can’t all be larks. Unfortunately, time is a precious commodity, and the world starts counting time in the morning. Accordingly, wise people wake up with the world- early birds who are rewarded with the proverbial worm.
A few years ago I paid attention for the first time to the fact that the Virtuous Woman of Proverbs 31 was also an early bird, and I thought, “If her results are anything to go by, joining this tribe is a move definitely worth considering.”
Now, I’m a self-made Morning Person, and I’ll share with you why and how.
Inspired by the Skinny Girl in Transit Season 4 finale, many Nigerian women are currently praying, each declaring that their own Mide will find them in 2018. Love is too sweet!
Are you looking forward to getting married next year? See this.