7 Lessons I’ve Learnt About Saying No

I used to be that person who always wanted to say yes. I genuinely enjoy people and like making them happy. If I can put a smile on someone’s face, that’s usually the highlight of my day. As a result, I’ve found myself saying too many yeses for my own good, and this created myriad problems for me and drained the joy out of activities that used to make me happy.

Over the years, I’ve come to understand that saying no is often as important as saying yes. Here are 7 lessons that have stood out for me.

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5 Helpful Tips for Navigating Overwhelming Seasons of Life

I’m just finding my way out of a season which, if I had to name it, would be called Overwhelm.

It was a stressful time, full of “how did I get here?” and “where do I start from?” ‎moments. The worst thing was that it didn’t seem like it would ever end. Sometimes the thought of endless pressure-filled days brought on anxiety and shortness of breath.

I was unable to write anything, and I had no time to read. Anyone who knows me knows that not being able to read is not only indicative of high stress, but actually creates another layer of stress.

Alas, tough times don’t last and that season of my life is giving way to a season of pure energy, high productivity and less stress.‎ What did I learn about reducing stress and freeing up your life?

One Day You Will Thank Yourself for Not Giving Up

I saw that quote in a picture someone shared on WhatsApp, and it spoke deeply to me.

For many of us, 2017 didn’t go exactly the way we wanted. Some aspects of our lives saw real growth and brought us joy, while others just seemed to have seen little or no progress. At times all one wants to do is abandon ship.

What makes the difference between those who start and finish, and those who start and drop off along the way?

Letter to my Friend, the Nigerian Undergraduate

Dear Friend,

In a country where many universities are struggling and some have already begun to decay, students like you who still strive for excellence and greatness against the odds, are in the minority.

I want you to know that I’m rooting for you, and I have a few things to share with you that will help you if you don’t merely read, but actually take them to heart.

Be Your Own Best Friend in 2018 and Beyond

Sometimes, we take self-love and self-care for granted. We get caught up with taking care of other people and other things, without pausing to take care of our own selves.

This goes beyond hair, skin, nails, diet or weight. When was the last time you took care of your spirit and your soul?

That new best friend who will come into your life and help the new you emerge, is you.

Are You Really Serious About Personal Development in 2018?

We can talk about how lit 2018 is going to be from now till tomorrow, but talk is cheap. Unless we take deliberate steps, 2018 will not be significantly better than 2017. In fact, “Happy New Year” begins now.

If you’re really serious about developing yourself, there is one commitment you must make and keep.