Nobody can think of every single thing to discuss before marriage, but here are 30 considerations that may never have crossed your mind.
If there’s anything I know to be true, it’s this: comparing your marriage to someone else’s is foolish.
I remember one day 10 years when I saw a couple I knew looking and acting sweet as usual, in their matching t-shirts and sneakers, and whispered a prayer to God about wanting my future marriage to be like theirs. A prayer that God, in His infinite mercy and wisdom, did not answer. I was shocked to realise later just how much pain and suffering lay underneath the façade, and even as I prayed for their healing and restoration, I retracted my previous prayer. Never again!
Today, after being married for a few years and having been thrust into “married circles” almost from day one, I know for a fact that no matter how close you think you are to a couple, it’s never a good idea compare your marriage to theirs; not just because of the dangers of comparison, but also because you simply do not know what their marriage is actually like.
From where you stand their marriage may appear sexier, more interesting, more modern, even more spirituality intimate than your own. Continue reading…
Recently, a friend pointed me to a story that rattled me. In 2006, a young woman named Joyce Carol Vincent was found in her bedsit flat in London. She had been dead for three years.
Get this: She was found skeletonised, lying on her back next to a shopping bag, surrounded by Christmas presents she had wrapped but never delivered. I couldn’t wrap my mind around it. Dead for three years and nobody around noticed, until the property had to be repossessed. Read more…
It’s true that marriage isn’t all about sex, but sex is a huge part of it. And yes, it’s important to marry a nice, kind, decent man, but why would you marry him if you feel no physical attraction?
It turns out there are many reasons why people make that decision. I’ve been asking people who have found themselves in marriages without physical passion, and this is what they had to say.
When you consider that you can survive for a while without a lover or spouse, but it’s practically impossible to survive without a friend, it becomes easier to see how friendship is a bigger deal than romance. It’s not pleasant to be without romantic love in your life, but how much worse is it to be without a friend in the world?
I agree with CS Lewis: “After all—though our novels now ignore it—friendship is the greatest of worldly goods. Certainly to me it is the chief happiness of life. If I had to give a piece of advice to a young man about a place to live, I think I should say, ‘sacrifice almost everything to live where you can be near your friends.’” Read more…
Does a happy marriage mean being inseparable?
Elizabeth Taylor, who married Richard Burton in 1964, divorced him 10 years later, and married him again in 1975 before they divorced for good less than a year later, once described their marriage as “being in each other’s pockets.” Read more…
Most of us are already tired of hearing how communication is the lifeblood of any relationship. We get it already! How does the communication thing work? Should we just keep on chattering away? What exactly do we say? That’s what we want to know.
Whether you’re looking to revive a romantic relationship, sustain a long distance friendship, or keep family members feeling loved, here are 7 tips you’ll find useful: