Posts from the ‘Relationships’ Category

How Do You Ask a New Friend Out?

A few days ago, I was in a supermarket shopping when I saw a young lady walk in. I liked her immediately.

There was something about the way she carried herself that was at once elegant and girl-next-door, and when she looked my way I saw the spark of intelligence in her eyes.

I wanted to be friends. Not just for those reasons but for the inexplicable reason that people just speak to something inside us. I used to wonder how, as toddlers in kindergarten and children in primary school, we gravitated towards some kids and not others. We couldn’t explain it then, and we can’t even now. We just like certain people.

I walked up to this lady and said hello.

Naija Voice: This Marriage of a Thing Dey Fear You?

E suppose fear you o. The thing risky no be small.

I remember one time wey dem ask one oyibo pikin who e go marry. E say e go marry im mama.

Dem tell am say no o, person no fit marry im own mama o. The boy come say okay, e go marry im sister. Dem say no o, person no dey marry sister o. Person no fit marry person from im own family o.

The pikin shock. E no fit believe am. So, person go just marry person wey e no know before? Na so una dey do am? The pikin begin cry.

You fit blame am? Sometimes I dey look my husband, and e dey surprise me say I meet person wey I no know before, come marry am. ‎Continue reading…

Marriage: 10 Things We Know We Should Be Doing, But Aren’t

What you know may not matter much if you aren’t applying it. You might as well not have that knowledge at all. When it comes to marriage, there are things we know we should do, but life and laziness get in the way.

Where Do Busybodies Really Come From?

Children, especially when they are very young, don’t understand boundaries. They feel free to ask any and every question that comes to mind, and to give their opinion on whatever subject, regardless of who is involved. It is in the process of training a child that boundaries are taught. Thus, the child learns that it is not every question that should be asked, and that, unless you’re asked, you should generally keep your opinion about someone else’s business to yourself.

Apparently this only happens in ideal circumstances, and not everyone was trained or remembers what they were taught. How else do you explain the staggering number of adults who have no understanding of boundaries, and who cannot mind their business even if their lives depended on it?

5 Minutes with Dr. Olamide Craig, Co-Founder, SuruLereLove

Professionally, Dr. Olamide Craig describes himself as a pastor and a physician. He went to medical school at the University of Ibadan and graduated in 2007 with a Bachelor of Medicine and Bachelor of Surgery degree. After this, he completed his internship at the National Hospital in Abuja and went on to receive a Master’s in Occupational Health from the University of Birmingham in England.

Some of his professional certifications include the NEBOSH Technical certificate in Oil and Gas Safety, Graduate Member of the International Society of Occupational Health, and Fellow of the Royal Society of Public Health. He has been involved in counselling and ministry for over 20 years, starting in secondary school where he was the President of the Air Force Secondary School Christian fellowship. To help hone this skill he is studying for a combined degree to include Diploma in Marriage Counselling, Diploma in Psychology (Interpersonal Relationships) and Diploma in Sex Therapy. He talked to me about the recently launched online dating website, SurulereLove, which he co-founded with his wife, Aisha Craig.

 

CN: How would you describe SuruLereLove?

SuruLereLove is an online dating and matrimonial site for the discerning Nigerian single. Our vision is to create a safe space online for Nigerian singles to meet, get to know each other and start fulfilling relationships.

 

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I’m Too Lazy to Have a Fantastic Marriage

Yes, I’m too lazy. I don’t have the energy and this is why my marriage is “good”. Sure, there are people with great marriages but those ones have two heads, you just can’t see the other one with your physical eyes. Someone once likened a great marriage to ducks swimming, smooth and effortless on top when underneath they’re actually paddling like crazy!

Think about the most successful students, musicians, or athletes you know. You see them when they excel and receive awards and accolades. They’re always looking awesome and pumping their fists, and you’re never thinking of the nights spend studying while others were sleeping, the hours spent rehearsing, writing and recording, or the disciplined training and achy muscles.

It all just looks fun and exciting, pretty much the way genuinely happy and fulfilled couples look.  

50 Wonderful People: Idaraesit

On the last day of 2017, I tweeted:

In 2018 I want to meet 50 wonderful people I’ve been following here in real life, to hug and chat about our

Today I met my second Twitter friend: @flygurly_

I was not surprised to find she’s truly a yummy mummy! She managed to sneak out of the house and we met up at a Dominos in our neighbourhood.

We have so much in common, not least of which is our love for reading. We chatted about motherhood, business, faith, and our shared love for cake, amongst other things.

Idy’s Favourite Things

Favourite Food: Ekpang nkukwo

Favourite Colour: Black

Favourite Beverage: Hot Chocolate

Favourite Snack: Banana bread

Favourite Singer: Frank Edwards

Favourite Actor: None

Favourite Actress: Taraji P. Henson

Favourite Movie: Dream Girls

Favourite TV Show(s): The Blacklist, White Collar

Favourite Travel Destination: Accra, Ghana

Favourite Writer (Fiction): Leon Uris

Favourite Pastime/ Hobby: Games- Scrabble, Candy Crush Saga

Favourite Exercise: Skipping

Favourite Quote: Life is self-driven; we live and die by the choices we make. ~ Pastor Chris Ugoh

Favourite Songs: I Am ~ Cece Winans, Ebezina ~ Preye Odede, Bia Nule ~ Frank Edwards

I’m planning a party and she’s guest Number 1. I can’t wait to hang out with her again, so much fun to be had!

50 Wonderful People: Eseosa

On the last day of 2017, I tweeted:

In 2018 I want to meet 50 wonderful people I’ve been following here in real life, to hug and chat about our

God has been gracious, 2018 is looking fabulous, and I met my first Twitter friend for the year: @thisiseseosa!

We’ve been following each other on Twitter for YEARS now, and I’m glad we finally got to meet.

She came over to my house with her lovely son and we hugged, made noise, and chatted about our favourite things while our sons played together.

Eseosa’s Favourite Things

Favourite Food: Yam and owo

Favourite Colour: Black

Favourite Beverage: Malta Guinness

Favourite Snack: Chicken sandwich

Favourite Singer: Whitney Houston

Favourite Actor: Nicholas Cage

Favourite Actress: Angelina Jolie

Favourite Movie: Sound of Music

Favourite TV Show: Game of Thrones

Favourite Travel Destination: Paris

Favourite Writer (Fiction): Robert Ludlum

Favourite Pastime/ Hobby: Blogging

Favourite exercise: Dancing

Favourite Quote: I could not at any age be content to take my place at the fireside and simply look on; life was meant to be lived. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Favourite Books: The Bible, An Enemy Called Average ~ John Mason

Favourite Songs: Step by Step ~ Whitney Houston, Onise Iyanu ~ Nathaniel Bassey, He’s Able ~ Voices of Unity ft Darwin Hobbs

 

Amazing woman of strength!

7 Things to Keep in Mind If You’re Planning a 2018 Wedding

Inspired by the Skinny Girl in Transit Season 4 finale, many Nigerian women are currently praying, each declaring that their own Mide will find them in 2018. Love is too sweet!

Are you looking forward to getting married next year? See this.

Verbal Abuse: When There Are No Visible Scars

When Lois accepted Nduka’s marriage proposal, she had no idea she would be anything but blissfully happy with him. After all, he had wanted her in his life so badly, expressing his desire to date and marry her several times over the years since they first met…

When you ask Lois how she came to be trapped in an abusive marriage, she hesitates. Accepting Nduka’s treatment of her from the weeks leading up to their marriage, until now, as abuse, has been difficult for her. Continue reading.