Of Falling in Love, and Love Itself

I’ve loved this for so many years, and I’ve decided to share for those who may not have seen it before:

 

“When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are to become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.

Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No … don’t blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away. Doesn’t sound very exciting, does it? But it is!”

-Louis de Bernières

 

 

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What Marriage Has Taught Me About Boredom

When you first started dating it never crossed your mind that you would one day be bored with this person.

Every sleeping and waking moment was wrapped up in them. The newness was exhilarating, adrenaline was pumping, and you just couldn’t get enough of them. What did you ever do to deserve this love?

There was so much to say, so much to do, so much to see together, and even being in the same room with them in silence somehow managed to be pure bliss.

The reality is nobody stays on that high forever. You’ve been together for a while, and that newness has long waned. You know that phase wasn’t meant to last forever, but what can you do now to keep boredom at bay? I wondered one day, so I went looking for answers. Here’s what I learnt.