Family Life, Published Articles, Relationships, Spirituality

Should You Compare Your Marriage?

If there’s anything I know to be true, it’s this: comparing your marriage to someone else’s is foolish.

I remember one day 10 years when I saw a couple I knew looking and acting sweet as usual, in their matching t-shirts and sneakers, and whispered a prayer to God about wanting my future marriage to be like theirs. A prayer that God, in His infinite mercy and wisdom, did not answer. I was shocked to realise later just how much pain and suffering lay underneath the façade, and even as I prayed for their healing and restoration, I retracted my previous prayer. Never again!

Today, after being married for a few years and having been thrust into “married circles” almost from day one, I know for a fact that no matter how close you think you are to a couple, it’s never a good idea compare your marriage to theirs; not just because of the dangers of comparison, but also because you simply do not know what their marriage is actually like.

From where you stand their marriage may appear sexier, more interesting, more modern, even more spirituality intimate than your own. Continue reading…

Family Life, Published Articles, Relationships

Is What You’re Doing Marriage Or Slavery?

There are homes where both partners contribute financially and yet the wife is completely responsible for cooking and housekeeping while the husband puts his feet up and plays on Twitter or watches a movie. Some dads won’t even give the children a bath, dress them or feed them. There are homes where the husband is struggling as the sole breadwinner and the wife enjoys leisure all day, and will not lift a finger to contribute financially even when she can get a job or start a business and support their lifestyle.

Even worse, some partners relegate their partners to the roles of provider, cook, cleaner, child bearer, nanny, etc. without putting any genuine effort into making sure they are emotionally and sexually satisfied as individuals.

These things should not be. Read more…