How Do Christians in Large Churches Thrive?

I’m a “small church” girl. I grew up in a congregation where everyone pretty much knew everyone, and I kind of liked it that way. So when I got engaged to a man who had recently joined a church with a large congregation, I wondered how in the world I was going to manage. After attending service with him a few times, I was outright distressed. Kuku kill me.

So heavily did the issue weigh on my mind that I found my way to a former pastor’s office seeking counsel. He totally understood where I was (he always does, he’s a pastor in the shepherd sense of the word, not just a pastor as in someone who stands in front and preaches) and he gave me one piece of advice to help me thrive in a large church. “Find a fellowship within the fellowship,” how said.

Unfortunately for me, even though I recognized this as fantastic advice, I did not immediately implement it. Continue reading.

Will You Wait Till The Water Runs Dry?

“We don’t even talk anymore…”

So begins one of my favourite Boys II Men songs,Water Runs Dry’.

When a marriage is headed downhill, talking is usually the next to die after kissing. You just don’t do it anymore. Continue reading…

What You Should Remember When Pressured to Just Marry

If you’re pressured to “just” marry someone, remember that a spouse isn’t someone to “cope with”; being stuck in a bad marriage is dreadful and even more so when you kind of knew you shouldn’t have done it; life is still challenging for two people who are a perfect fit, how much more facing these with someone who’s all wrong for you; sex-as-duty for the rest of your life is depressing… I could go on and on.

I recently had reason to be ashamed of myself. Very ashamed, in fact.