Published Articles, Relationships

The One Thing I Never Paid Attention To About Love Languages

As a student of linguistics, dialectology was one of my favourite aspects to study. The differences between dialects of a language fascinated me to no end, as did paying attention to the points where a dialect would be considered a language on its own. I particularly loved cornering Igbo people and asking them about “l” and “r” and “f” and “h” sounds (Aha/Afa, Udara/Udala) and other such dialectal differences.

So imagine my surprise and delight when I found out that love languages also have dialects! Read more…

Family Life, Published Articles

5 Tips For Parenting When Mum And Dad Work

At a seminar I attended years ago when I was a single woman, a speaker told a story to buttress the point she was making about work-life balance that stayed with me.

A little girl whose mother had just started a demanding job was having a hard time adjusting. Before she woke up in the morning, her mum was gone, and she was usually in bed by the time her mum returned. One day, she left a note for her mother before going to bed. It read simply, “Mummy, long time o.”

The woman resigned that month, and who can blame her? Things are even more challenging in homes where both parents work and kids come home to caregivers with whom they spend most of their waking hours. What can working parents do to raise healthy, well-adjusted children? Read more…

Family Life, Relationships

What Does Working At Your Relationship Even Mean?

Nearly everyone who has ever paid attention to relationships and marriage has heard that they require “work”. If you want your relationship to remain strong, you need to “work” at it. If you’re like me, the sound of that is discouraging. I already have work and I don’t need more. Shouldn’t relationships be fun? Read more…