If you’re a wife and mother who goes to work, works from home, or runs a business, then you must have help at home. That’s it; it just had to be put out there like that. If you don’t have help, then you need to ask yourself some hard questions. If you have chosen to not have a business or career, that’s a different matter. However, if you want to make money, contribute meaningfully to the economy, and raise your kids properly, you need help at home whether it’s someone who resumes and closes or someone who lives with you. Here are a few things every working mother without an assistant should know.
- You Are a Person.
Yes, you are a human being. Ecclesiastes 3:13 says “And people should eat and drink and enjoy the fruits of their labour, for these are gifts from God.” Being a woman doesn’t exclude you or mean that the gift of God doesn’t apply to you. The “virtuous and capable wife” in Proverbs 31 knew this. She went about her various businesses with zest and vigour, and applying her God given aptitude she invested her earnings, creating multiple streams of income and multiplying her revenue! Have a look:
-“She finds wool and flax and busily spins it.”
-“She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard.”
– She is energetic and strong, a hard worker. She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night.
– She makes belted linen garments and sashes to sell to the merchants
Man or woman, there is dignity in labour. God has made it so, and is well pleased to see it. Get with the programme.
“She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work…” Proverbs 31:15
I’m an owl. Naturally I do my best work when I’m at my desk late into the night, and in the mornings I prefer to sleep in. There is nothing wrong with this, per se; after all we can’t all be larks. Unfortunately, time is a precious commodity, and the world starts counting time in the morning. Accordingly, wise people wake up with the world- early birds who are rewarded with the proverbial worm.
A few years ago I paid attention for the first time to the fact that the Virtuous Woman of Proverbs 31 was also an early bird, and I thought, “If her results are anything to go by, joining this tribe is a move definitely worth considering.”
Now, I’m a self-made Morning Person, and I’ll share with you why and how.
Joy Isi Bewaji, who is the Managing Director at Happenings Radio, and also the Managing Editor at Happenings Magazine, is a writer, lifestyle editor, presenter, publicist, author and playwright. Her most recent play, ‘The Story of My Vagina’ was presented in December by the Crown Troupe of Africa.
I had 10 questions for JIB, who is also the convener of The Conversation, a bi-monthly event tackling issues of gender equality, patriarchy and abuse. Read the interview here.
Chidiadi Madumere is the MD/CEO of Black Purist Media Ltd, a fast growing integrated communications agency in Nigeria. She started her career with EbonyLife TV as the Head Writer for Season 3 of the Naija Diamonds documentary series before moving into full event, TV, stage & film production. Chidiadi, who studied Law at Abia State University, currently sits on the board of directors at Small Business Owners Initiative Limited. I interviewed her last week; read it HERE.